Be Your Own Life Coach

Most people live life reacting to events, feeling as though they are acted upon, controlled by other people and external forces. It does not have to be that way. It is possible to feel in charge of your life … to feel as though you’re the one deciding what you do, where you go, who you’re with, and how you spend you time. The only way to achieve this is to decide now to design your life!

When designing it’s important to consider your life as a five pointed star, with each of the five points representing a different aspect of your life. The first point, at the top, represents your health and fitness – because if you don’t have good health, you won’t be able to achieve or enjoy anything else. The two side arms of the star are for wealth/possessions on the left, and career/achievements on the right side. The two supporting legs of the star are for personal development/contribution on the left, and relationships/family on the right side – because without a sense of contribution and growth and connection with others, even great achievements feel hollow and meaningless.

So, let’s start designing your life … right now! If you could live where you wanted, do what you wanted, and be the person you most wanted to be, what would that look, sound and feel like? Take the next 15 minutes to write down all your dreams and desires, as if they were really possible for you. Don’t be concerned just yet about whether you can achieve something or nor, or how you could go about it – we’ll be considering these issues later on. For now, simply get all your dreams down.

To help, you might want to consider :

Where do you want to live?

What kind of home do you want?

What kind of car?

How much income do you want to earn in a year?

How much do you want to have in savings?

What places would you like to visit?

What have you always wanted to learn, or do, that you’ve never gotten around to yet? What would you like to contribute to our society / the world?

Who do you want to know and be friends with?

How do you want your family to be?

What do you want to weigh, and look like?

How fit do you want to be?

What skills do you want to have?

What do you want to achieve in your career?

What possessions do you yearn for? And so on.

Brainstorm your thoughts and ideas below, and then organise them into the five groupings.

Copyright J. Hodges / Sportsmind Institute 2008

About Jeffrey Hodges B.Sc.(AES) M.Sc.(Hons)
Jeffrey Hodges is a performance consultant to elite athletes, sporting teams and corporate clients. He is the author of the widely acclaimed “Sportsmind – An Athlete’s Guide to Superperformance Through Mental & Emotional Training” and “Champion Thoughts, Champion Feelings”; creator of the Sportsmind performance enhancement workshops and audio tapes; and Director of the Sportsmind Institute for Human Performance Research.

He is a NLP Master Practitioner and Associate Trainer, and his Sportsmind programs have been endorsed by the NSW Dept Sport & Recreation, and recommended by top sportsclubs and successful athletes. Jeffrey has competed in many sports, notably Volleyball, Squash, Soccer and Golf, and currently trains in Aikido, holding a black belt.

Some of his clients to date include :
Australian Rugby Union
St. Joseph’s College
Woodlands Golf Club
Financial Institutions Remuneration Group (FIRG)
Societe Generale
Qld. Swimming
Network for Fitness Professionals
North Sydney and Penrith Rugby League Clubs
Qld. Athletics Assn
NSW Netball Assn
Northern Inland Academy of Sport
Victorian Soaring Assn
Orange Agricultural College Equestrian School
Qld and NSW Departments of Sport and Recreation
Qld Academy of Sport
and the RAAF.

For more information, contact :
FLAXTON Qld. Australia. 4560.
PHONE 61 7 5445 7994
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